tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615646.post6143927951441476890..comments2023-06-25T17:52:46.850+02:00Comments on Rock in the Grass (Pete Grassow): SexPete Grassowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02871713300314160309noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615646.post-71251153394477793852009-03-05T15:17:00.000+02:002009-03-05T15:17:00.000+02:00Phew, Pete - brave move indeed. I pray that God w...Phew, Pete - brave move indeed. I pray that God will use your message (and your experience) mightily as you share with your congregation.<BR/><BR/>Depending on your relationship with your congregation (and this is entirely your call), it may be extremely releasing for someone battling with pornography addiction to hear about your "experiment" and what effect it has had on you. I can see this being far more powerful than hearing a "don't" message from someone who has no idea what the person is going through, and how porn can enslave them.<BR/><BR/>No doubt you've prayed about this, and my thoughts and prayers will be with you on Sunday. I'm also praying that you'll be able to "switch off" once your sermon research is complete!<BR/><BR/>(Word verification: "versli" - a sexy way to sing hymns in melodic verse - taken from the premise that extremely good-looking women tend to end their names in "i", e.g. Jacqui instead of Jackie. I REALLY need to have my family with me again if I keep coming up with these warped definitions!)Steven Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08152927209644414146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615646.post-33615465823798907052009-03-03T20:05:00.000+02:002009-03-03T20:05:00.000+02:00Pete; thanks for the insight & thoughts. It...Pete; thanks for the insight & thoughts. It's really given me something to mull over.McGyverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13698616064641552845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615646.post-72609831067820081772009-03-03T10:22:00.000+02:002009-03-03T10:22:00.000+02:00wow, brave indeed! i have "five smooth stones" in ...wow, brave indeed! i have "five smooth stones" in my office if you want to check it outbugshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15792421948266670049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615646.post-68195066945358766672009-03-03T09:54:00.000+02:002009-03-03T09:54:00.000+02:00I want to congratulate you on your courage, Pete -...I want to congratulate you on your courage, Pete - both to do the work you're doing to prepare for Sunday, and in posting about it here. Very brave, my friend.<BR/><BR/>Two thoughts:<BR/>1. I can't tell you what you should say on Sunday - that's not my place. One thing that I have found helpful in my own sexual journey is realising that sexuality and spirituality are not separate and dichotomous human experiences. They are, in my mind, two sides of one coin(But then, you already knew that). Eugene Petersen explores this beautifully in "Five Smooth Stones for Pastoral Work" (p. 24-25 & footnote 2 on p.25-26) - check it out if you have the book. (Look for the paragraph that starts "All horizontal relationships...". If you don't have the book, email me and I'll send you a transcript of that paragraph and the footnote).<BR/><BR/>2. You might want to read an interesting feminist perspective on pornography: XXX - A Woman's Right To Pornograhpy. It gives some interesting insights that might help you and it's available free online (or I can send you an electronic copy). You probably won't buy all she says, but I think it's important to hear her perspective.<BR/><BR/>3. Another helpful book if you can find it is Jo Ind's book "Memories Of Bliss".<BR/><BR/>There's a lot there, but I hope some of it is helpful.<BR/><BR/>Blessing to you on Sunday!John van de Laarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09379013243937260867noreply@blogger.com